Protecting Your Children During Your Divorce
Going through a divorce is never easy as it tends to be difficult both emotionally and physically. This is especially true for your children. Thus, it is extremely important for your children that you and your spouse are dedicated to ensuring that your children’s needs remain a priority throughout the divorce process. While dealing with your divorce, your children need to know and understand that the divorce is not their fault and that you and your ex-spouse still love them very much.
Although it is not easy, you and your spouse should work hard at putting aside your anger and hard feelings toward each other, to ensure that you are able to work together to do what is best for your children. To make the divorce process as smooth as possible for your children, you and your spouse should consider sitting down together and developing a parenting plan that is suitable for you and your children. Although it may be difficult, it is going to be much easier and less painful than having to go to court and have a judge who doesn’t know you or your children determine a schedule you will be obligated to abide by.
Although it will be difficult, you and your spouse should try your best to work together to do what is best for your children, as this is the only way that you and your spouse will be able to protect them through this difficult time. If your spouse is uncooperative or unwilling to commit to remaining amicable to work with you to develop a parenting plan, you should still keep your values as a parent and try your best to remain amicable.
While you and your spouse should not keep the divorce a secret from your children, you should not burden them with the issues involved in your divorce; however, it is important that you inform your children what is going to happen and what they can expect. You should consider giving your children some notice before a parent moves out of the marital home so that the child can have some time to deal with your divorce and ask questions. You should also ensure that you reassure the child that you and your ex-spouse are still going to be there for them and that nothing has changed in that sense.
When you are talking with your children about the divorce, you should not put blame on anyone, as it is important that your children do not hear you putting down their other parent in any way. It is important that your children know that they still have two dependable and trustworthy parents to take care of them.
It is important that you make it clear to your children that the divorce is not their fault and that they did not do anything wrong. You should also make sure that your children understand where they will live, and that they can see and talk to the other parent any time they want. You should also let them know that there may be some changes later on, but it is not going to affect their relationship, as both parents will always love and be there for them. After telling your children what they can expect, you should give them the opportunity to ask you any questions that they may have for you and your ex-spouse. Giving your children the right information and not too much information is important. You do not want them to feel anxious or worrying about anything that should not be their concern, such as child support, distribution of assets and debts, and grounds for the divorce. It is important that you ensure your children are given some time to adjust to the idea of you and your ex-spouse divorcing prior to making any big changes.
If you need help negotiating a parenting plan with your ex-spouse, you should contact our Memphis divorce attorney to schedule a low cost divorce consultation so that you can ensure that your children and parental rights are protected. We offer affordable flat fees and flexible payment plans.
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